malaynese???

Hadis riwayat Abu Hurairah ra, :
Rasulullah saw. bersabda: "Setiap anak itu dilahirkan dalam keadaan fitrah. Kedua orang tuanyalah yang membuatnya menjadi seorang Yahudi, seorang Nasrani mahupun seorang Majusi."

hot hot topic..i was browsing thru my friend's website when i bumped into her blog.she posted a link to this article..it was quite hard for me to read it as it was not in form of normal document...so..i had to retype the whole thing so that i can share this one to u guys.

i hope this will be a great lesson to us.certain parents do not take Islam seriously and they just abandoned the Islamic values and culture..perhaps,mostly they preferred the Ang Mohs culture.haiyyah......apa nak jadi..ni lah nama nye..dunia sudah kiamat..nauzubilllahi min zalik..

praise to Allah the most Gracious and most Merciful.please protect us from any ma'siyyah.ameen ya rabb.

ok guys.ready for the article?it's gonna be looong~so just bear with it k? =P

so here it goes..

GMagazine, Feb 2009....

Kyle Immanuel Khairudin and Joanna Chew, both 40, met while working in a hotel some 15 years ago. As colleagues, they'd occasionally meet up for lunch but the chemistry between them was a slow and gradual one which only took off after Joanna left the company.

In the early days of their courtship, Joanna's parents expressed some apprehension over her Malay boyfriend. She recalled, "My parents were a little shocked at first and they were showing some negative vibes. They couldn't understand why can't i get a Chinese boyfriend. They think that once i marry a Malay, i won't have a coffin when i die and my husband's going to have four wives."

Kyle's family, on the other hand, turned out to be a liberal and atypical Malay household. His father, having worked in Europe, was open to the subject of race and religion. In fact, many of Kyle's siblings are either Catholics or Christians, and their spouses belong to other ethnic backgrounds. Kyle himself studied in Mission School and took Chinese as a second language.

Luckily for this pair of lovebirds, it didn't take long for Joanna's parents to accept that their daughter was going to marry a non-Chinese. "First of all, Kyle knows how to speak the language so there's no communication barrier. In fact, after the initial period of doubt, i think they now love him more that they loved me!" she chuckled.

"No matter how much we love each other, if we don't get along with our in-laws and accept each other's cultures and beliefs, there's no point in getting married," Kyle said, "There has to be an equal amount of respect from both sides and we have to give each other space."

Making it Official

In 1996, after dating for two years, the couple registered their marriage. In 1998, they held their customary wedding - yes, both a Chinese banquet and a Malay lunch reception. Coming from a Cantonese background, it was customary for the groom to present Joanna's family with a suckling pig. This was naturally posed some challenges for Kyle but the understanding from Joanna's family ensured that the process was a painless and straightforward one.

"Instead of physically delivering the suckling pig to my house, which would be quite disrespectful towards his parents, Kyle gave the money to my mother to prepare the rituals and buy whatever needed to be bought," Joanna explained.

And then of course, there was the common question from friends and family if Joanna would have to convert after getting married. "I have to keep repeating myself like a broken record that no, I'm not converting." Joanna said, and her husband added, "The perception in Singapore needs to change. Many people assume that just because I'm Malay, i must be Muslim, but I'm not."

Having been a freethinker most of his life, Kyle took his time deciding which religion to embrace. At present, he is undergoing the RCIA process in CTK, but according to Joanna, who was baptised four years earlier, Kyle has always been "more Catholic" than her - being particular about dressing well and showing reverence at mass - through habits which were cultivated from his school-going days.

And Then, There Were Three

The latest addition to this half-Chinese half-Malay is Jacob Ashley Khairudin Hai Jie, a "Malaynese", as his parents affectionately call him.

"We wanted a name which both sides of the family can acknowledge and recognise," shared Joanna, "Not that my parents-in-law demanded for it, but we just felt it would be nice to pick a name that they can associate with. The name 'Jacob' came to mind because of its Catholic and Islamic roots, and incidentally,it was also his paternal great grandfather's name."

With his unique name and distinctive skin tone, it's not difficult to tell that this Alter Server has some mixed blood in his genes. However, being 'mixed' has its own set of problems. The teacher in school once thought that Jacob was going through identity crisis. His classmates too, quizzed him with many questions.

"My classmates always ask me why I eat pork when I'm half-Malay," said the sociable and outspoken boy who, like his father, is taking Chinese in school. Evidently tired of the incessant queries, Jacob has formulated an answer that's short and sweet, "I just tell them that I'm Catholic."

When asked if he feels special and different from his peers, this nine-year-old simply shook his head and replied that everyone's special.

Faith's The Answer

Indeed, faith seems to be the gel that keeps this family together. The trio can be spotted in church on Sundays participating in activities with the Catechesis of Good Shepherd; getting their hands dirty doing art and craft while learning more about the Bible.

With Jacob undergoing the Family Integrated Religious Education (FIRE) programme and Kyle enrolled in RCIA, this family continues its unique evolution and builds a foundation that is rooted in the Catholic way of life.

Theirs is a story of fate and faith. "It's fate because both of us could have married someone else, and faith because we both embrace similar beliefs and religion," Joanna concluded.

so....wat do you guys think?

hmmm...

nauzubillahi min zalik

mudah-mudahan dijauhkan

.::ladyE::.

khayal

khayal

terduduk aku merenung langit

idamkan cahaya bintang

andai ia jatuh ke bumi

sudah pasti aku menyambutnya

merangkul ia di hati

termenung aku dilangit yang luas

kembalikan memori kerinduan

satu persatu menjadi kenangan

secebis demi secebis

perlahan ia pergi

dibawa awanan halus

meninggalkan aku sekali lagi

termenung

sendirian menatap langit

kagum

kaku

pantas memori meninggalkan aku

andai dapatku putarkan waktu

pasti....

pasti ada yang datang

pasti ada yang pergi

pasti ada yang ganti

yang pasti

hakikat hidup dan mati

itukan realiti.

bukan mimpi.

7 RULES OF ATTITUDE PROBLEM.

7 RULES OF AP

 

1. Never admit you are wrong. Try to find your way out of all situations. Remember you are always correct.

 

2. Never Help anyone who don’t bother to help themselves or people who are simply too stupid to realise how deep inside a shithole they are. Let them sink and rot. So long as their hands are not around your ankle. If their hand is around your ankle, chop their hands off you  before sending them down with a kick.

 

3. Never give in to anyone’s rules and regulations if it cause you troubles. Remember if people need your help. They should follow your terms and not the other way round. If a person who seek your help too many time, he/she is probably a leech and should be avoided. Never ever bother about anyone who couldn’t care about you. Never ever give in and ask he/she ‘why are you doing this to me? ’

 

4. Never listen to what anyone say about you. Be your own judge. You are the only person who knows what is best for yourself. Your fate lies on your own hands. Not any crap fortune telling shit can change your fate if you don’t allow them to. If you are good, you can create your own luck.

 

5. Always try to be better than anyone else, even if it means the whole human race is going to perish, remember you must survive cause you are better than the rest. The method use is not important. The result is most important. Cheat your way through if you have to. Cheating is only wrong if you are caught.

 

6. First impression of everyone starts at 100 points. For every bad action noted, minus points accordingly to your own preference. If it hits 0 point, don’t bother about that person anymore. Just pretend he never even exist before. You can judge a person using rules 2 and 3 .

 

7. It is always better to make a first strike. Make sure that first strike is a fatal strike. Do not look back over the past and regret. What is more important is ahead of you.

adapted from Nirman..

.::ladyE::.

Humans.

Classification of humans around you

Friends: people you know will help you when you are in need. People who will shed a tear if you were to die in an accident the next day.

Leech : People you know won’t help you in time of need. Instead expect your help as and when they need.

Action pack: These people are usually people who tends to boast the most at most social events. Remember : people who feels insecure about themselves will tend to get more attention to themselves. They are mostly harmless. But also not very capable.

Pink bubble: These people lives in a fantasy world and expect everything to be perfect/ of fairy tale like. Mostly these people are girls or human being that have not face the reality of this world OR being shield from the truth of the world by means of wealth. People who are Pink bubble and are not rich are also consider as leech. Known as a pink leech.

Shit: people that simply contribute nothing to this world and yet produce a very very bad odour polluting the environment around us. If they were to die in next second, the only person who would cry for them is their creditor whom they still own money to.

adapted from Nirman..

.::ladyE::.

untuk ann.

aku mohon

aku mohon 

mudah-mudahan apa yang menimpa dipermudahkan

tak sanggup melihatnya

 jauh dari pandangan

tak sanggup mendengar alunan muzik yang tidak enak

tidak mampu melakukan apa-apa

hanya dengarkan rintihan jiwanya

aku mohon

agar hati ini tenang dan aman

walau jiwa diambang resah dan gelisah

setiap detik aku kerinduan

mengharap waktu berlalu sepintas jalan

aku mohon

kesabaran dan keredhaan dikurniakan

agar dia lebih mensyukuri

meneliti setiap perkara yang terjadi

pasti ada kemanisan dihujung jalan

aku mengharap

aku impikan

aku memohon

andai dapat aku memeluk

pasti hilang beban di hati

andai dapat aku mengusap ubun rambutnya

sekurang-kurangnya 

memimpin tangan memberi keyakinan

tiada apa yang membahagiakan

selain menenangkan hatinya

aku mohon

padaMu ya Allah

please..

bahagiakan adik aku

tenangkan hatinya

ringankan bebannya

kurniakan kesihatan padanya

aku mohon

padaMu ya Allah

please..

aku tak sanggup kehilangannya

dialah Nyawa aku

dialah Cermin aku

dialah Jiwa aku

dialah Kakak dan Adik bagiku

tapi...

andai kata

 itulah yang tertulis

dalam Luh MahfuzMu

aku terima dengan ikhlas dan penuh keredhaan

pahit atau manis

aku perlu

harus

telan

*love*

*hugs*

xoxo

.::ladyE::.

mummy and adeq..i really miss u badly..:'(

Innalillahi wa inna ilaihi rajiuun..

been there done that.mudah-mudahan setiap urusan kita dipermudahkan ameen.

to a good friend of mine...i still misses her..until today.i still misses him..until today..to get a grip after whatever happens....it's not as easy as it may look. it took me almost 2 years to get a grip after my mum passed away. and adeq?until today...how i just wish i'm chatting with him and share things rather than wasting my time on this pathetic blog of mine.

i really miss him as much as i miss mummy tooo. if only...if only....

if only adeq is here..he must've been sleeping till 11PM as usual :)

if only mum is here..she must've been accompanying dad doing his dialysis 4 morning session.making hot tea n biscuits for dad's breakfast..reading the paper...talking n chatting like any love birds will do every morning..or..maybe planning what to cook for today's dinner.

i miss talking to them :(

this is a video of my mummy talking to nyai.......adeq was demonstrating my dad on how to record videos using his handphone...hearing his voice and only his voice..really makes me miss him badly...seeing my mum as healthy as she was n chatty with nyai...i miss hugging u Mak :'(

I LOVE U MAK & ADEQ

esabelle signin off for tonight...

aduhai Ummiku sayang~Ummiku sayang.... :'(

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Rasulullah kemudian mengajar Saiyyidati Fatimah beberapa potong doa dan menyuruhnya supaya meminta tolong kepada Allah SWT untuk mengurus rumahtangga, mendidik anak serta melayani suami. Dalam pada itu, Rasulullah memberi nasihat kepada Saiyyidati Fatimah "Hai Fatimah, sabarlah. Sesungguhnya sebaik-baik wanita adalah yang memberi manfaat kepada keluarganya". Oleh itu, sedarlah para ibu bahawa ukuran kejayaan seorang ibu bukan semata-mata kejayaan dalam kerjaya, pendidikan atau kedudukan dalam masyarakat tetapi yang lebih penting adalah kejayaan para ibu dalam membina keluarga bahagia. Ditulis oleh: Azrina Binti Sobian Dipetik dari laman :http://www.ikim.gov.my